Anger is a normal and healthy emotion, neither good nor the bad. Like any emotion, it conveys a message that tells you that the situation is upsetting, unfair, or threatening. If your erratic reaction to anger is exploding, this message never gets the chance to get across. So, while it’s perfectly normal to feel anger when you’ve been mistreated or wronged, anger becomes a problem when you express it in a way that harms yourself or others.
You may think that venting your anger is healthy, that the people around you are very sensitive, that your anger is justified, or that you need to show your anger to get respect. But the truth is, anger is likely to harm the way people see you, impair your judgment, and get in the way of success.
Effects of Anger
Chronic anger that flares up all the time or gets out of control can have serious consequences for:
Constantly working with high levels of stress and anger makes you more likely to develop heart disease, diabetes, a weak immune system, insomnia, and high blood pressure.
Chronic anger consumes huge amounts of mental energy, clouding your thinking, and making it difficult for you to focus or enjoy life. It can also lead to stress, depression, and the other mental health problems.
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Constructive criticism, creative differences, and heated debates can be healthy. But criticism only serves to alienate your colleagues, supervisors, or clients and undermines their respect.
Anger can cause permanent scars to the people you love most and get in the way of your friendships and work relationships. Explosive anger makes it difficult for others to trust you, speak honestly, or feel comfortable — and it is especially harmful to children.
How anger management can help you
Many people think that the anger management is about learning to suppress your anger. The anger will come out no matter how hard you try to quell it. The real goal of anger management is not to suppress feelings of anger, but rather to understand the message behind the feelings and healthily express them without losing control. When you do this, you will not only feel better, but you will also be better able to meet your needs, be better able to manage conflicts in your life, and strengthen your relationships.
Mastering the art of the anger management takes effort, the more you practice, the easier it becomes. And the reward is huge. Learning to control and express your anger appropriately will help you to build the better relationships, achieve your goals, and live a healthier, more fulfilling life.
EMDR treatment for anger and frustration
No matter how advanced our workplaces are globally, technologically advanced, or organizationally literate, we are still human beings interacting with others. We will not agree or agree face to face at all times. We may encounter clients, colleagues, or supervisors who are rude, manipulative, or narcissistic. At times, you may feel frustrated or angry due to work situations. First, know that having feelings for your work is healthy and normal. Feeling frustrated or feeling angry could be an indication that something is wrong, or that you’re not in a healthy situation.
If these negative situations seem overwhelming, or if your business is in jeopardy, it may be time to seek help or psychotherapy. When negative feelings seem out of proportion to the current situation or persist despite attempts to make changes, previous negative experiences may have started. EMDR therapy may help explore and resolve past experiences that may amplify negative feelings in stimulating situations.
Here are some tips for dealing with these feelings that you can experience on your own:
- Remove yourself from the situation
- Use your breath to calm your body and also your mind
- Keep your thoughts balanced
- Change the emotional channel
DepressionDepression. The effects of major depressive disorder include loss of interest, depressed mood, inability to feel pleasure, and feelings of inappropriate self-worth.
TraumaPast trauma including past abuse are often the underlying causes and deep-rooted issues behind a lot of the personal problems that individuals face. Traditional counseling & EMDR therapy can help.
Grief CounselingThe death of a loved one causes emotional and physical pain that impairs your ability to function normally in both the short- and long-term.
Relationship IssuesOne-on-one counseling for relationship issues can be an effective way to restore your happiness.
Anger ManagementAnger becomes becomes a problem for individuals when you express the anger in a way that causes harm to others or yourself.
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) & Mental Health Service Provider (MHSP) in Tennessee
I have worked with individuals and families throughout Tennessee on the personal issues that trouble them for over 15 years. From managing depression and dealing with grief to addressing past trauma, anger and relationship issues, I am here to help. The reason I mention EMDR Therapy (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing) so much in relation to dealing with personal issues is because EMDR therapy works quickly to help the therapist find the deep-rooted problems and traumas that are the cause of many issues.
Steven Lepley LPC, MHSP
Licensed in Tennessee
I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, Mental Health Services Provider & EMDR Therapist offering virtual telemedicine appointments throughout all of Tennessee.
Ask me about my experience & how I can help you address the challenges you are facing. Call me or text me at 615.330.2659.